Monday, March 26, 2012
During this 30-day immersion project, it would have been a heck of a lot more difficult to deal with not having Facebook if I would not have had another social network, that I love and am basically addicted to, to fall back on. Twitter has been my sanity, like the title says. Every time that I wanted to get on Facebook, besides the times I cheated, I would click on the Twitter icon and go to that instead. I mean, even with Twitter it was really tempting at times, but Twitter sure did help! Another about Twitter that helped was the fact that I have majority of the same people on Twitter that I do Facebook. I feel like the next thing I should do is try and give up Twitter and rely more on Facebook, reverse the situation, and see how well that works out for me. I think some of you should try this, too!
At the beginning of this immersion project, I thought it was going to be super difficult to give up Facebook. After awhile though, I got to thinking that the only real reason as to why I still even use Facebook anymore is for the picture aspect of it. I don't get on Facebook in the sense of actually caring about the information on the profile, well.. besides the relationship part.. lol!, but the pictures that are posted and the different photo albums that my friends have. To be completely honest, the only reason why I cheated the times that I did during this immersion project was because I wanted to post new pictures from different events that had happened during this immersion, and I couldn't wait until the end.
Hey guys! So I cheated over the weekend and logged onto my Facebook account. I really wish I would not have done so now after seeing the pictures and reading the posts that I did while I was logged on. One of my not so best friends anymore from high school had posted pictures of her hanging out with this group of girls that we both graduated with that she always tells me that she cannot stand and she thinks that are fake and that kind of situation. I honestly feel like she's only hanging out with them because ..for one, we live in a small town and they were all home so it was convenient and out of boredom and for two, I feel that they are still stuck in high school even though our freshman year of COLLEGE is almost to an end. I just find this frustrating! Sorry for the vent session to all who read this, I just needed to get that off my chest.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
If you have any doubts about your own Facebook usage, I highly recommend you to try a 30-day Facebook fast like I have been doing. It really is easy to do this because Facebook lets you (temporarily or permanently) deactivate your account without deleting your data like your friends, your pictures and things like that on your Facebook account. If you decide you want to go back to using it later, you can always log back in again, and everything can be restored with a few clicks, including your wall, photos, etc. As for the process of how to do it, all you do is login to your Facebook account, and click Account then go to -> Account Settings. At the bottom of that page, click “deactivate.” Follow the instructions from there. This won’t delete your information on your account, but it will take your profile offline. You’ll become invisible, making yourself not able to be searched by your friends on Facebook and anyone else. To restore it later, just login again and click a similar link to bring it back. If you really want to stay in touch with certain people from Facebook who do not already have an alternate means of contacting you like Twitter, you can send them a private message before you deactivate your account to let them know how to reach you during your process of deactivation. If you are an active Facebook user like I was, and you are in the process of going 30 days without it, you will start to gain a much clearer understanding of its role in your life. In my case it was obvious within a few days that the benefits I got from using it were not worth the effort, but there were other subtleties I did not notice until weeks later, like now. This is your life. It is up to you to ensure that you are getting good value from your online activities. As my mom told me, "don't just go through the motions because you’ve been swayed by some social network to behave a certain way." As for myself, I am sure it is obvious that I have no plans of returning to Facebook until the end of this month. Resistance is NOT futile.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
So with the whole having no Facebook for a little bit longer, I solely depend on my other social network site,Twitter, to keep me sane. The jury is still out about trying to see if I can deactivate that next to see how I go without that part of social media, but for now I am still using it. Twitter, to me, does not create the same accessibility problem because by wisely choosing the people that I want to follow on there, I am not forced to send messages or anything like that on Twitter opposed to Facebook. Even if I did have an inbox, it would not be that bad because people can only send 140-character messages. I just find it best not to have an inbox there at all, so I never need to worry about people expecting me to reply to their direct messages. A few people that I follow and that follow me back apparently consider it poor Twitter etiquette to have thousands of followers and not follow anyone back. I don’t lose any sleep over it. Occasionally I’ll skim through the public messages that people address to me, especially if I tweeted a question for feedback purposes, but I normally don’t pay much attention to the @PBnMelly replies since they’re mostly re-tweets of my own stuff. So if you tried to get my attention by publicly posting a message to me on Twitter, there’s a good chance I never saw it. For now, I am okay using Twitter for posting broadcast-style messages because Twitter does not force upon me the scaling headaches that Facebook does.
Monday, March 19, 2012
When I used Facebook, I realized that there is a great deal of hype about the business value of social networking. A lot of that hype is focused on by those who are trying to make money from it. One of the supposed benefits of social networking is that it can raise your visibility. If you’re more visible (among the right people), you can attract more business. That part is all good. But not all of the ways to gain visibility are the same. If you use Facebook to raise your visibility, it comes with a risk. I have learned that as you raise your visibility, you also increase your accessibility. If you have a Facebook page with a wall on it, then people can post comments on your wall. If you have a fan page, someone can “like” your fan page, post spam on your wall, and then “unlike” your fan page, and it is impossible to ban them from repeated abuse. You would just have to deal with it. The more visible you are on Facebook, the more people have access to interact with you in some way, whether it’s by sending you private messages, posting messages on your wall, or inviting you to events and groups. Beyond a certain point, this kind of contact becomes impractical to deal with in any meaningful way. I like that Facebook may have helped to increase my visibility by introducing me to people I may have never met or have gotten the chance to get to know better with it, but I am glad I deactivated it for my immersion project. When I dropped Facebook, I breathed a major sigh of relief. In a way I’m still sighing, days later. It really is a great relief not to be so accessible anymore. The visibility gains that Facebook provides just aren’t worth the price. There are much easier and more effective ways to build visibility that don’t go along with such risks.
Sunday, March 18, 2012
Well guys, I have a confession. I cheated today! :( Shocking, huh? I was disappointed in myself, but I did learn something out of it, though. Social networking makes it easy to become socially lazy. With a few clicks, you can lead yourself into thinking you have an active social life. It’s a good idea to pause and take a look at your social results. I found that spending more time on Facebook, especially by cheating today by using it for the first time since the end of February, did not produce much value for me socially. I did make some interesting contacts now and then, but it was not worth the time spent. It is true that in-person networking is more challenging. If your social skills are weak, you can pretend to be a social butterfly online just by throwing a lot of time at it. You’re still going to be limited in the long run by your ability to connect with people face to face. Make sure you don’t let your social skills get to the point where you end up spending more and more time alone, vainly trying to feed the illusion that you have a real social life. Since I have cheated, I have to make sure to keep challenging myself to not give up on this immersion. If I only do what’s easy, I will grow weaker with each passing day that is left.